This is the final part of the Four Part Series from the point that you decide to Seek a Therapist, have the Consultation, and the First Appointment. If you have not read those blog post, I encourage you to catch up on them and then come back to this blog post to be fully informed. I am completing this series with signs that you may be receiving bad therapy or this therapist is not a good fit. Below are five signs that may indicate that the therapeutic relationship is not a good fit or you just may be receiving bad therapy.

Five Signs of Bad Therapy

1. Feeling judged. Therapy should be a safe space for you to say some difficult, hard, or shameful things without feeling judged. This should be a place where you feel comfortable saying and admitting these things.

2. Lack of empathy. If you are feeling like your therapist does not or does not try to understand why you feel how you feel or think how you think, but that is important to you on this journey, then this therapist may not be a good fit.

3. Not feeling relatable or understood. This was a point that was mentioned initially when seeking a therapist. There may be certain cultural experiences that may not be understood and could have an impact on guiding our journey.

4. Monopolizing the session. Therapy should never be more therapeutic for the therapist than the client. If you notice that your therapist is spending more time talking about her then you talking, it may be a clear indication that of bad therapy.

5. Not seeing progress. I recommend after 90 days, you and your therapist review your progress. If at 90 days, you feel like you have not made progress, it is encouraged to have a conversation with your therapist about your concerns and a plan to move forward that holds both you and the therapist accountable.

Signs of good therapy, would be the exact opposite of all of the above. Ultimately, you may be able to just pick up on the vibe from the therapy which aligns or matches your vibe!! If you are experiencing any of these signs from your therapist, I would you encourage you to share these concerns with the therapist and explore the best way to move forward even if that results in you being referred out to a therapist that is a better fit. Quitting your healing journey is NOT recommended.

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Disclaimer: I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but I am not YOUR Licensed Clinical Social Worker. These blog posts are based on my personal opinions, reflections, and insights and are not intended to be taken as professional therapeutic intervention(s) and/or advice. Further, please note these blogs are not intended to serve as and/or replace formal counseling services. If you are in need or interested in taking part in direct therapeutic services, please contact your insurance provider’s customer service for assistance. You may also consult website such as (but not limited to) Psychology Today and Therapy for Black Girls to find a therapist. If you are located in NC, MD, SC, or VA and would like to work with me, click here to ensure I accept your insurance or check my rates and here to schedule an appointment.